My Grand Mom

I've lost my grand mom physically from this world few weeks ago but she lives through my memories. I would like to share few of them and how much impact they had in my life. She was the first person who used to tell me bed-time stories which made me visualize the characters and probably the power of my imagination began from there. She was a great movie fan, she literally watched every possible movie which was humanly possible i used to tag along with her to most of the movies and before i knew it became a part of me. I still remember the names of the movies i watched with my grand mom during our trips in the holidays. I don't really know what happens to us when we leave this world, all i know is our time is limited in this world and while you are here learn as much as you can from the people who really matter to you and do the right things which really make them proud.

Control is an illusion

Often people get confused with their good fortune with having control over things which according to me is an illusion which they create based on the results which they see in that particular time period. What happened to the control when you were in a bad patch or when you are hitting the bottom did you forget to notice that you lost control? 

My point is simple no one has control over anything for longer period of time only thing that is in our control is our ability to control our mind, body and soul to maintain a stable state despite of the highs and lows it takes immense will power, hours of concentration and tons of patience. You have to be prepared to handle yourself to come out of a situation when you r hit bad by life, the only time you suffer is when you don't expect the unexpected. Have a plan when things don't go your way try to keep your head out of water until it calms down. I always tell myself live to fight another day when I'm down. Don't forget what you went through during your bad phase even then you won't have control over you life but at least you will not make a fool of yourself. 

Heart of Gold

I have started a foundation “Heart of Gold” in the hope of donating something to my fellow humans who are in desperate need for help. I see so much money is being wasted around me on trivial things both myself and people around me. I thought if I take an initiative to collect and distribute it to the needed it may be worthwhile living. Even though I did little bit before, more than the money it is the initiative which gave me lot of happiness in doing the task. I’ve read somewhere that no one does anything for free. Maybe that’s true I am also doing to feel good about myself. I figured that it is not a bad way to feel good about myself and have a strong feeling that I will take this initiative in to something big. I always believe that it only takes one person with strong will power to motivate any person either in good way or bad. I hope and I believe that I have the motivation power to attract people to support me in my journey. I am not sure what my heart is made of but I started this foundation in the hope I can turn mine and people around me in to gold.

Appreciate

Most people neglect to do it in their life. People who criticize even petty things in life should also have a heart to appreciate good things to strike the balance. I’ve learnt the hard way not to expect too much from anything in life and instead concentrate of what you do in delivering it to the best of your potential. They say you need lot of courage to apologize to someone even when you know its your mistake, you also need enough heart to appreciate or compliment someone from bottom of your heart and not just for the sake of it. A simple genuine compliment, gesture will give immense confidence to lot of people, which actually gives them a kick in life to do it more. When I look at a glass of water, which is filled in half, there are people who might say half of the water is gone, but I always like to think that there is still half water left. Always try to look at things from a positive, optimistic perspective, this kind of thinking will allow you appreciate more in life. Don’t let people who doesn’t care for you shatter your dreams, ignore their criticism, you should be smart enough to differentiate between constructive and destructive criticism. Believe in you what you had believed all your life. Appreciate what you have in life now, sooner or later before you realize you might lose them.

Introspection

It’s been a while since I’ve written anything; I got a feeling that may be I am in a stage of life where I am introspecting myself. Every now and then it’s good to take a short break from what you are doing in your day to day life. Watch your life closely from an entire totally different perspective; you will be amazed about what you will find. Most certainly they are very interesting facts which you would never find if you are not out of that zone. This practice helps and gives you a chance to improve, change, think and correct yourself. Like how you put an alarm to wake up in the morning put an alarm to wake yourself from life before it runs over you and takes control over you. Intelligent people create their opportunities, Smart people make perfect use of their opportunities only dumb people give away theirs to others. People who fall in the last category lack introspection so they are completely ignorant about how to make use of opportunities when they come their way. Reminds me of a proverb “You can take a horse only to the well but you can’t make it drink the water”
Now the question comes how do you actually do it? Give yourself a short break from your regular life and choose a place where you have freedom and your mind will be at peace. Just like how you do your physical exercise at the gym this is a mental exercise which needs loads of concentration. Think about all the things which you wanted to do and all the things which you hate to do in your life. Try to find a realistic solution to avoid those situations. Once you find the grey areas invest your time in researching about the potential problems which are creating road blocks in your life from attaining success, Peace and happiness. Even if you cannot solve all your problems in one day at least you’re headed in the right direction to solve them sooner or later. This exercise relaxes you as a person, you feel refreshed in your life with your mind attaining more energy levels. It also prevents you from making hasty decisions in life. At this point your mind is like a completely recharged battery, Key thing to remember to maintain this balance in life is to never ever let your brain battery drain.

Women

Agree or Disagree this will remain as an undeniable fact. Man’s life revolves around women. I am happy and consider myself as extremely lucky for having had the best in my life. I often think of trying not to hurt them in anyway but sometimes I fail in doing that. The greatest quality in women is forgiveness, But you need to be careful not to push those limits too far once its done it can’t be fixed anymore. Its always good to take sometime in your busy life to appreciate them once in a while which we men don’t if we get caught up with the busy life. Love, which they offer, is infinite which I doubt I can give them back as much as they do. Being rude, harsh, egoistic to women are the most pathetic qualities, which most men have and it is imperative to realize to get out of it and return them, back what they truly deserve. Even I am not an exception from the men which I am talking about I at least think about it and try to make up for it and I sincerely request everyone who falls under this category to introspect themselves and be as a better person.

PEACE

Just one word, But takes a lot to attain it. I strongly believe that peace is the solution for all the problems which we have in this world. Before you try to preach it to people around you it's very essential to check if you are at peace. Are you giving yourself enough time everyday to think about what's going on in your life and where you are heading. Some people call it meditation but I call that as a way to reach peace. You need to attain the state of Inner calmness which gives you enough power to listen to people around you. Once you achieve it you will stop running for things which doesn't matter in the long run, You will not worry for the materialistic things which used to bother you a lot before. You will stop running after life and start walking relaxed and enjoy every moment of your life by forgetting the problems, worries which you had in the past and not worry about your future. Inner peace pushes out all the insecurities in your life, You will be in a clear state of mind to judge your actions and make better choices in your life. All you need to do is constantly self motivate yourself towards reaching the peace and attain a mental stability. You will be surprised to see what life has to offer for you. If you haven't thought this way before at least now you can give it a try and I am sure it will not go waste.