My point is simple no one has control over anything for longer period of time only thing that is in our control is our ability to control our mind, body and soul to maintain a stable state despite of the highs and lows it takes immense will power, hours of concentration and tons of patience. You have to be prepared to handle yourself to come out of a situation when you r hit bad by life, the only time you suffer is when you don't expect the unexpected. Have a plan when things don't go your way try to keep your head out of water until it calms down. I always tell myself live to fight another day when I'm down. Don't forget what you went through during your bad phase even then you won't have control over you life but at least you will not make a fool of yourself.